PSALM 6
This original
posting was on Saturday 16 May 2020 and taken from a book by Bill Crowder
titled “My Hope is In You – Psalms that comfort and mend the soul”.
O Lord, rebuke me not in thine anger, neither
chasten me in thy hot displeasure.
2 Have mercy upon me, O Lord; for I am weak: O Lord, heal me; for my bones are vexed.
3 My soul is also sore vexed: but thou, O Lord, how long?
4 Return, O Lord, deliver my soul: oh save me for thy
mercies' sake.
5 For in death there is no remembrance of thee: in the
grave who shall give thee thanks?
6 I am weary with my groaning; all the night make I my
bed to swim; I water my couch with my tears.
7 Mine eye is consumed because of grief; it waxeth old
because of all mine enemies.
8 Depart from me, all ye workers of iniquity; for
the Lord hath
heard the voice of my weeping.
9 The Lord hath heard my supplication;
the Lord will
receive my prayer.
10 Let all mine enemies be ashamed and sore vexed: let
them return and be ashamed suddenly.
Paul
McCartney in the Beatles song, “Let it Be” released in 1970 used the words
“Mother Mary”. Many thought this was a
religious reference to the Virgin Mary but in fact if you listen to the rest of the words he states “coming to me in times of trouble.” It was not a religious icon he longed for but
it was his own mother Mary McCartney who had died when Paul was a
youngster. He missed her, he longed to talk
to her when life was filled with pain.
His words “let it be” speak of the great vacuum left in his life by the
absence of the loved and lost. I have
personally known that sense of loss with my own mother 25 years ago. I would love to have had my mother’s wisdom
through these years. Yes there is a huge
vacuum and I can attest to that – you miss your mother more than anyone I
think.
Grief
is so personal and felt in the most private ways. It is also messy because it is personal,
regardless of how public or sweeping the causes of grief may be. Grief is so very personal – just this week
the news told us of the death of a mother and her young 3 year old daughter on
a farm quad accident. The other daughter
Hannah aged 5 is in a critical condition.
Ryan the father’ grief is so very personal to him.
In
this psalm we don’t know the specific cause of David’s grief. He talks in the last few verses of people
that have caused his heartache. They are
not the main focus of this psalm. David
is being very honest in his responses to real life circumstances of actual
emotion we feel. Notice the language
used here - it is so very personal.
David cries for help from God. He
thinks God has deserted him. He thinks
God is punishing him – “rebuke me not in thine anger, neither chasten me in thy
hot displeasure.” C H Spurgeon remarked
that David is not resistant to God’s rebuke but he does not want to be rebuked
in anger. He wants God’s rebuke to be
formative rather than punitive in his life.
So many feelings when you go through grief – joy at a loved one whose
pain is over, anger that they have been taken so young, bitterness and guilt
that we didn’t do more in their last few days, resentment at the loss – yes I
have experienced these all and know only too well the range of emotions when
mum died. Now I am nearing her age I
just think of how cruel for mum not to have known her own granddaughter, seen
us in our own home, but all these do not matter when I think of how much pain
she was in and it was such a relief for her to go home to heaven.
“My
soul is also sore vexed”. He is so
deeply troubled and disturbed C H Spurgeon
said “Soul-trouble is the very soul of trouble.
It matters not that the bones shake if the soul be firm, but when the
soul itself is also sore vexed, this is agony indeed” Not some superficial matter that David can
shrug off easily or quickly. It is a
pain that cuts him to the quick. He
reaches to God in the moment of his struggle.
This is deep – the soul is involved – imagine! Yet there is only one who can hep us in the
matter of our soul - God himself.
“But
thou, O LORD, how long?” – basically “until when?” David is simply asking “How long will I
endure with this pain alone?” He is
pouring out his heart to God but hears only silence in return. He unloads everything he is feeling on God
who he thinks has abandoned him in his time of grief. His grief has been compounded by his
perception of God’s distance from him in his time of need. That is so very real, the windows of heaven
being closed, that feeling of being cut off.
Somehow you are walking this path on your own.
“Have
mercy upon me, O LORD; for I am weak: O LORD, heal me; for my bones are vexed.”
David is telling God that the grief in his heart has shaken him down to his
very frame. It is a crisis. Crisis force us to fundamentally reorganise
the way we live our lives. This is the
kind of crisis that rocks your world and unsettles your heart. We are currently living in a crisis, COVID
19. It has shaken our world to its very
core and we have had to reorganise our lives.
It certainly has rocked our lives and unsettled everyone.
“Return,
O LORD, deliver my soul oh save for thy mercies’ sake. For in death there is no remembrance of thee;
in the grave who shall give thee thanks?”
David acknowledges his pain is too great and his grief too deep for him
to be able to handle it alone. He needs
help and only God’s help will do – “return and deliver” becomes the cry of his
heart. It is not to be rescued because
he deserves it – it is only because of the character of the great God that he
still trusts, in spite of his grief. It
is a trust rooted in God’s lovingkindness – His mercy that endures forever –
Psalm 136.
“I
am weary with my groaning; all the night make I my bed to swim; I water my
couch with my tears. Mine eye is
consumed because of grief; it waxeth old because of all mine enemies.” David’s
grief has manifested itself in 4 ways – fatigue or tiredness, tears, sorrow and
fears.
“All
the night” – in times of grief it is difficult to sleep because your dreams are
haunted by words and deeds that somehow interact with the grief.
“I
am weary with my groaning” – this creates a weariness, a fatigue. It is in the darkness, after others have gone
their way, that the private expressions of grief take form, which is another
reason sleep eludes us in times of grief.
“Mine
eye is consumed because of grief; it waxeth old because of all mine
enemies.” David’s judgment may be
clouded by his emotions, because in a state nearing depression, he is not
seeing with clarity and accuracy the situations that surround him. David’s enemies have worn him down. These were human foes. Grief of this magnitude feels inconsolable and
perhaps even worse, inescapable. Our
response to our grief drives us to the private agony of spirit that seems to
have no remedy – unless we see the only way out; the way of trust.
“the
LORD hath heard the voice of my weeping.
The LORD hath heard my supplication; the Lord will receive my
prayer” God answers his prayers even in
the midst of his grief and pain. It is
David’s confidence in a present reality that impacts his long view of life and
his attitude in it all. Think of Job – “though
he slay me I will hope in Him.” (Job 13 verse 14) and “As for me, I now that my
Redeemer lives and at the last He will take His stand on the earth.” (o 19
verse 25)
David
tells his enemies that God is still with him, in spite of the struggles he
faces. He is still weeping. He is still feeling the depths of his
pain. But he no longer feels
abandoned. He recognises that the God
who loves him also hears his prayers. 3
times he affirms his confidence in a prayer-hearing God. God does not always answer our prayers in
ways that we understand, but He always hears our cries. He does not turn His back on us, or ignore
us. He is not too busy to listen. He is never disinterested.
“Let
all mine enemies be ashamed and sore vexed; let them return and be ashamed
suddenly." David anticipates
victory yet to come. Remember when Jesus
was in the Upper Room with his disciples - "therefore you too have grief
now but I will see you again and your heart will rejoice and no one will take
your joy away from you." (John 16 verse 22)
This
is purposeful grief. If we can learn to
allow our grief to have purpose - to inform our living and loving and serving -
then our own moments of sorrow can prepare us for great opportunities for
spiritual impact.
“Blessed
be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God
of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able
to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves
are comforted by God.” 2 Corinthians 1 verses 3 and 4.
Updated: 22 April 2025 - From Teach Me To Feel by Courtney Reissig
Psalm 6 is a psalm that speaks of great pain. David says that his "bones are vexed". God is not surprised by that kind of pain; nor does he leave us alone in it.
This is a psalm of David, but besides that we don't know much about the context of his prayer for relief. This is helpful because it allows us freedom to apply the psalm to a variety of circumstances. Because of the general nature of the psalm, we can find comfort in whatever pain we face. All David tells us is that his suffering is affecting him physically and spiritually (verses 2 and 3, 5). This tis the way of physical pain - it is so debilitating because it affects our emotions and spiritual life too. You can't limit it to "just" your physical nature, because you feel pain. Pain is as much an emotional experience as it is a physical one.
This psalm is meant to be sung by God's people The heading includes multiple references to the musical nature of the poem.
The psalmist expect us to sing the praise and the lament together. The psalmist expects us to pour our hearts out to God in joy and in pain - in worship. This psalm was to be sung by the choir, leading the congregation: which tells us that the experience of pain is normal, and also that expressing pain to God is necessary. You can cry out to God in worship, and it will be beautiful to God. You can lament to God in your pain and be a faithful Christian.
In Psalm 6 David is teaching us to pray. We often think that prayer should be about praising God for who he is and what he's done, and it does include those elements, but prayer is also about desperate people begging God to do what they can't do for themselves. That's what David gets to here right from the outset - verses 1 and 2 begin a passionate plea for God to remember him and be gracious to him. So David shows us how to feel, he shows us how to worship and he shows us how to pray, all in this psalm that is filled with great anguish. That's encouraging as we wrestle through pain that doesn't seem to let up. God is guiding us along in our difficulty, because when pain is ravaging your body, you don't have the energy to figure out what to say or how to worship. Here God says to us, through David, Let me help you find the words you need.
The words David finds for his pain and anguish are raw, and they are common when we are overcome with pain.
"O LORD, rebuke me not in thin anger, neither chasten me in thy hot displeasure. Have mercy upon me; O LORD, for I am weak, O LORD heal me: for my bones are vexed. My soul is also sore vexed, but thou, O LORD how long?"
Pain can make you feel that God is againt you. It can even make you feel that God hates you. At the height of our suffering, our mind can play tricks on us - hurling doubt on even the most fervent believers. Psalm 6 is a collective exhalation. Our feelings might not be true, but they are most certainly real. In that raw emotion, we ask "How long?"
So pain can lead to anxiety and doubting. It can even make you weak or sick. And pain is emotionally draining:
"I am weary with my groaning; all the night make I my bed to swim, I water my couch with my tears. Mine eye is consumed because of grief, it waxeth old because of all mine enemies."
Pain has some hard side-effects that tend to hang on and drain us of any energy that is left. You get the sense from David that for him, this is a near-constant battle. It is happening all throughout the night. It has gone on for a long time.
Pain questions what we know and believe, and it doesn't let up. Pain asks many questions but never gives any answers. Pain confuses us. It doesn't let any light in. You wonder when the pain will end, and like David, you may cry out all night long.
And pain can do one of 2 things to us.
First, it can either move us towards God in trust because we know God and we know he loves us, despite what the pain suggests:
"Return, O LORD, deliver my soul, oh save me for thy mercies sake."
Or second, it can drive us away from God, causing us to reject him and become hardened against him because of what we see happening in or around us.
In pain you will either listen to God, who is sovereign over your pain; or you will listen to the pain that is screaming at you that God can't help or can't be trusted. Pain has a way of grounding you on the path you've chosen. Or to put it another way, pain has a way of refining you and showing you who you really are. It can expose you in your waywardness and draw you back to God, or draw you closer to the God you've been trusting all along - or it can reveal that you never had any sure footing to begin with, like the seed that fell on the thorny and rocky soils in Matthew 13. And so pain is, strangely, an unasked-for opportunity, if we allow it to be, stripping us of what we may hold too dear, moving us back to where we should be, and showing us that our all-sufficient God is the only one worth trusting (Job 23 verse 10).
This is how David treats his pain. He can respond in faith because of what he knows about God. He's already on the right path, so when suffering comes, he has the tools necessary to hang on even though it is bumpy. You can respond in this way, too, because of what you know about God. The blessed life is found in knowing God through his word. How else will you stand when your bones are troubled and when you are languishing? How will you flourish like a tree planted by streams of water when it feels as if the water supply has dried up? You meditate on the word and you stand in adversity - even in pain.
First David cries out to God and appeals to him based on who he is (Psalm 6 verses 1 to 5); then he goes back to weeping and anguish (verses 6 and 7). Lament is a back and forth struggle "Turn and answer me, Lord! I know who you are" becomes weeping and grief before it becomes confident trust again. This is the pattern of the human experience. We cry out in trust and then we cry out in anguish, and then we cry out in trust again. Pain is hard and it is real, and there is sometimes a road for us to walk to get to that place of trust. But the road eventually will lead us back to the God who hears, who understands, and who is ready to comfort us in our pain.
Your Lord is not going to push you beyond what he will also give you the grace to endure. He is not going to look down on you and he is not going to fail to use your pain. Knowing this is how you get the strength to keep crying out to him in pain. With the cry comes the sustaining grace.
In this psalm, david hasn't received deliverance yet.
"Depart from me, all ye workers of iniquity, for the LORD hath heard the voice of my weeping. The LORD hath heard my supplication; the LORD will receive my prayer. Let all mine enemies be ashamed and sore vexed; let them return and be ashamed suddenly."
David says that God has heard him, but do you notice the tense of verse 10? It's in the future! David doesn't say that God has done this to his enemies. He says he will do it to his enemies. David is turning to God in trust before the deliverance comes. How can he do that? Because of what is true in Psalm 2 and all throughout the bible. Remember Psalm 2 sets up the Psalter by telling us God's plan for all time - to establish his kingdom forever through his Son, Jesus. One day, every enemy will be defeated and that gives David hope One day, this king's king will make all things new - including a pain-filled body. It's this view that encourages us when the pain of life threatens to undo us, as in Psalm 6. It won't last forever.
The future promised to him in Psalm 2 is what enabled David to cry out in faith, even when the deliverance was still far off. The future promised to us in that psalm, in Revelation 21 and 22 - where Christ returns and makes all things new - and even all throughout the New Testament enables us to do the same. We have the same confidence that David had in Psalm 6 verse 1. All of our enemies will be dealt with one day - even the enemy names "pain". As we wait, we cry out with honest pleas to the only one who can sustain us and heal us, the only one who can redeem our pain by using it and then removing it - the Lord, who reigns over all.
So we cry, "Come Lord Jesus". And we know that when he does, we will cry no more.




