Monday, 25 March 2024

Phebe

 


Romans chapters 16 verses 1 and 2

“I commend unto you Phebe our sister, which is a servant of the church which is at Cenchrea:

That ye receive her in the Lord, as becometh saints, and that ye assist her in whatsoever business she hath need of you: for she hath been a succourer of many, and of myself also.”

53 words – Phebe was one of 10 women mentioned in this chapter of Romans 16.  There were 27 people named in total.  Phebe – did you notice the spelling without the O!  Her name means The Shining One.  She was a Gentile by birth.  We don’t know how she came to faith, whether she was married or had a family.

 

Paul devotes 2 verses to the commendation of 1 single individual and a woman.  In the days in which the bible was written people wrote letters of introduction for people who travelled.  If we bear in mind the journey Phebe made to bring this letter to the Christians in Rome, we can begin to understand that these words would have given assurance to people who may have opened their homes and provided hospitality to Phebe.  What a commendation – and from the apostle Paul himself!  This was the man who had travelled extensively and established churches throughout the Roman world.

 

There are 3 descriptive words of Phebe – a sister, a servant and a succourer. 

 

The word “sister” refers to her faith in Christ.  She was part of the family of God and she was especially dear to Paul himself.

 

The words “servant and succourer” refer to her ministry in Christ.  A “succourer” is someone who gives in times of distress or need, a saviour. 

 

This word “servant” carries with it the notion of leadership, so she obviously had some position in the church, the interpretation of the word is deacon.  She had standing within the local established church.  Perhaps in describing her in this way Paul was ensuring the people who listened to his words would pay attention.  Yes, Phebe would deliver and read the letter Paul wrote but it came with authority, the authority of not only Paul but God himself.  Her role as a deacon would have included visiting the sick, assisting young women and helping the poor.

 

When I think of Phebe I am reminded of Lydia.  Remember her?  She was the woman that went outside of the city of Philippi one Sabbath morning because there was a prayer meeting being held.  Lydia sold purple cloth.  She was a trader.  She was used moving from city to city and I think Phebe was the same.  A business women who was not afraid to travel, the ideal candidate to take Paul’s letter with her.  The least suspected person.

 

We notice here where she came from – “a servant of the church which is in Cenchrea.”  This was a small established church not far from Corinth, about 5 miles from where Paul wrote this letter.  It was a coastal town, a thriving town with many idolatrous monuments and shrines.  It had many famous temples to Venus so probably tolerated much religion.  Paul never made it to Rome as a missionary but he intended to and from there to reach Spain.  Phebe possibly was a woman of wealth, a supporter of Paul’s missionary outreach.  This was a church that did not appear to have problems as the Corinthians did.  Paul chose her from this church rather than someone from the Corinthian church at which he was now based.

 

3 things Paul asked the church in Rome to do:

 

Firstly, “That ye receive her in the Lord” – as if it was the Lord they were receiving.  The challenge is clear – how would we receive the Lord if he came into our homes, into our churches, into our workplace today?

 

Secondly, “as becometh saints” – receive her into your hearts, into your homes and into the church.

 

Thirdly, “That ye assist her in whatsoever business she hath need of you” – Phebe would have been a stranger in Rome, she needed help on a practical level as well as spiritually speaking.  Paul was asking these believers to provide help in whatever way was possible.

 

These were new believers in Rome – scattered to the 4 corners of the city – meeting not in a church but in the houses of the city.  All sorts of houses – from those owned by the rich with many slaves, to the actual houses the slaves lived in, from the traders in the street to those who lived in the slums along the riverbank in Rome.  These believers would have been young in the faith.  They were in hiding for their faith – not long before this a decree had gone out which resulted in Jews leaving Rome in fear of their lives.  Now they had returned as a result of that particular Emperor having died.  The Gentiles were outnumbering the Jews and this is where the problems arose.  There were probably 200 Christians living in Rome at this time.  Paul wrote this letter to help iron out some of these problems they now faced as they met together in Rome.  Phebe was given the responsibility of taking Paul’s letter to the scattered believers in house churches throughout the city of Rome.

 

Phebe was part of a larger cohort of women who partnered closely with the Apostle Paul, women such as Chloe (1 Corinthians 1:11), Nympha (Colossians 4:15), Apphia (Philemon 2), Euodia and Syntyche (Philippians 4:2-3), and Junia (Romans 16:7). Sometimes Paul gets labelled as being “anti-women,” but Phebe and her sisters would surely testify otherwise.

 

Phebe not only had the responsibility of taking Paul’s scroll on which he wrote this letter to the people of Rome, but she had to learn the contents and read it aloud to the believers in Rome.  She needed to understand what exactly Paul was saying and its meaning.  So Phebe would have been well educated.  Phebe had to travel not only by land but by boat, a hazardous journey for anyone.

 

So what qualities can we learn from Phebe … powerful, influential, sacrificial, generous - qualities used for God’s glory not her own.

 

We have often heard the saying “little is much when God is in it”.  This could be written over Phebe’s life – I am sure she did not consider that she was doing much in taking this letter but her small task has left us with this amazing book.  When I think of Phebe, I am reminded that the small things I can do for God do matter. 

 

Also, Phebe used what she had to honour God – particularly financially and educationally.  What a reminder that is for all of us.  We might not be able to travel as Phebe did and take the good news to those who have not heard the gospel message yet but we can use what we have in terms of financial assistance to help. 

 

When I think of Paul writing these words I realised that he did not have to mention all these people – they knew who they were, they knew what they did to help Paul but he didn’t want them to remain nameless or omit them from this list.  I wonder – have you ever written a letter of thanks to those for whom you owe a debt of gratitude?  Maybe something they have done that has given you joy when you needed it most.  Perhaps they called and visited at a time when you were feeling down or they provided something of a practical nature.  Maybe today you could take time to thank them.  But don’t forget to thank God for such people too.  As you look back on your life maybe there are people who have led you on your path to faith in Christ or helped you in the days since.  Maybe you could sit down tonight and write a prayer to thanks to God for such people.

 

Another challenge can be seen in these words – as we reflect on those who in our lives have been an encourager, maybe we could do the same.  In your prayers of thanksgiving to God can you ask God to show you someone you could provide assistance to today in practical or material ways.  Paul described his readers as “saints” and we share that same title if we have accepted Christ as our Lord and Saviour.  If we have entered into a personal relationship with Jesus Christ as our Lord and Saviour, we are his chosen ones.  That involves reflecting him in our lives.  Are we reflecting a welcome as Paul expressed here to those who enter into our fellowship?  Do we reflect that sense of unity – being one in Christ?  No matter how far Phebe travelled she was welcomed with open arms by the Christians in Rome despite all their difficulties and fear of being arrested and persecution.

 

Phebe used her influence and financial wealth as well as her personal time and effort in the service of Christ – what are we using today?  I really pray that you will be challenged by Phebe’s example as I have been.  She is certainly one woman I am looking forward to meeting in heaven one day and to say “thank you” for her service for Christ in bringing a book packed full of foundational truths of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Friday, 22 March 2024

Forgiveness


The entrance to our driveway is awash with daffodils and I doubt if they will last until Easter with all the wind and rain we have experienced over the last couple of days.  I just love the different colours and shapes of daffodils.  Each one is unique ... just as we are.  We all have different talents and abilities.  For some of us it takes a lifetime to realise what they are and for others it is easy, like second nature.  As many talents have different facets it is easy to think "well I'm not good at that" but you know we are all useful to God.  He can take us and mould us into what he wants us to be.  Over the past day I have been learning this lesson from the life of Joseph.



These 2 books were recommended by someone who attends our Book Club - I have had so many brilliant suggestions over the past month of books to read and am loving them all.

R T Kendall has written many books, in fact I have quite a few of them on my shelf at home and would not part with them.  In these 2 books he looks at the subject of Forgiveness.  I am always amazed at how many characters there are in the bible whose lives teach me so much even thousands of years later.  Joseph's story is recorded in Genesis chapters 37 to 50.

As a teenager at 17 years of age Joseph was his father's favourite child.  He expressed that love in giving him a coat of many colours.  His brothers were very jealous of him and they decided something needed to be done.  R T Kendall points out that Joseph at this  point in his life showed no sensitivity or humility at all.  Joseph had a special talent - he was having dreams which were from God himself but he couldn't work out what they meant at this point in his life.  Did you know that today God is working through many dreams that Muslims have?  Many people from the Muslim faith are recording instances of dreams that are bringing them to faith in Christ as their Lord and Saviour.

God allowed Joseph's brothers to deal with him ruthlessly.  God could have stepped in at any point in this story but he didn't.  He was sold as a slave to the Egyptians.  Then they told their father a story that made Jacob believe his son had been killed.

In Genesis 39 we read these beautiful words and they are repeated continually in Joseph's story - "The Lord was with Joseph."  In the next stage of Joseph's story we see him working in the house of Potiphar and we know what happened next.  Potiphar's wife made up a story of rape  For doing the right thing Joseph was punished.

Joseph was now in an era of preparation but he didn't know it.  As a result of the false accusation he was put in prison.  But God had great plans for Joseph.  God wanted to ensure that Joseph did not come out of prison or embark on the next phase of his life's work until he was ready - Hebrews 12 verse 6 tells us "For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth."

Just stop and think how Joseph must have been thinking at this stage.  He must have been bitter.  First being sold by his brothers then being falsely accused but Joseph had resisted the temptation.  Why did he resist?  Because of his loyalty to God - "how can I do this great wickedness and sin against God?"  He did not want to displease God and God lets him go to prison for something he didn't do.

Can you see God's hand in Joseph's life?  After some time another opportunity came up for Joseph to be vindicated.  Pharaoh's cupbearer and baker were imprisoned and they had dreams which needed interpretation.  Remember that was Joseph's talent but now he actually could work out what the dreams meant.

God wanted Joseph out of prison just as much as Joseph wanted out of prison.  But not yet.  There had to be this delay in the plan.  What was going on? Joseph needed to be delivered from bitterness and self-pity.  Joseph whined about being in prison - Genesis 40 verse 15 "I have done nothing that they should put me in the dungeon."

You see Joseph had to learn an important lesson - to forgive his brothers, Potiphar's wife and God.

One day Joseph's brothers would appear before him and when they did Joseph was a changed man.  No bitterness, no grudges.  Something had happened in the intervening years.

Whilst Joseph was able to interpret the cupbearer and the baker's dreams it was another 2 years before he interpreted Pharaoh's dreams.  This was not because Joseph had asked to be remembered  - no it was because God was working in the background.

Joseph became Prime Minister and very soon he would be reunited with his brothers.

This is where R T Kendall's book gets really good!

R T Kendall shows that Joseph recognised his brothers and immediately asked for everyone else to leave the room.  Why?  He did not want anyone to know what his brothers had done to him 22 years before.  And then he told his brothers what to tell his father when they returned home.

God will not reveal what he knows about us!  Joseph wanted his brothers not to be afraid of him, both now and in the future.  He had learned to forgive them long ago and he wanted them to know that forgiveness themselves.  He wanted them to learn how to forgive themselves too.  Joseph wanted to ensure that his brothers did not feel any guilt for what they had done.

Throughout Joseph's revelation to his brothers we see Joseph referring to God's hand in everything - "for God did send me before you to preserve life ... And God sent me before you to preserve you a posterity in the earth." Genesis 45 verses 5 and 7

This is what we refer to as saving face.  Preserving dignity and self-esteem.  God lets us save face by causing our past (however foolish) to work together for good.  God lets us believe that what happened was as if it was supposed to be.  God, Joseph said, was behind it all.  Joseph was admitting that he would have done what his brothers did too.

God worked on Joseph's heart during those 2 years in prison.  God had meant it for good.  God did send Joseph on ahead.  Joseph was so grateful to God for sending him on ahead.  He had been chosen by God.  The pain he had endured to get to where he was now was forgotten.

I just think the story of Joseph speaks so clearly of forgiveness and there are many lessons to learn from the story.  Sometimes we have to go through multiple trials before we realise what God is doing.  We need God's hand on our lives to teach us important lessons because we have not learned to let go and let God work.  We focus too much on ourselves and how everything is so against us.  It is all about me, me, me.  It shouldn't be this way - God is in control of very situation in our lives and we need to take a step back and see that.  Sometimes we want to be vindicated, we want punishment for others but really that is not God's plan.  God loves us so much and wants the best for us.  We need to hear what he is saying to us rather than focusing on what we think we are hearing.  That may take a time of waiting on God - imagine for Joseph it was 22 years!  God's timing is perfect.  God's purpose is perfect - do I believe this today?


"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." Romans 8 verse 28

Monday, 18 March 2024

Trials

 Monday 18 March 2024

I have decided to resurrect this personal blogger in the hope that it might bless, encourage and maybe even challenge someone including myself reading it.


As I write I am sitting in my Sunroom and looking
at all these beautiful geraniums.  The colours are
beautiful - pinks in all different shades, whites and
reds.  It is so relaxing just watching traffic going 
past including the slurry tankers!




This is a view I love from my chair in the sunroom!




Yesterday I started to slow down in my reading of this book.  I read and took notes but somehow it just wasn't lodging in my brain.  As is usual in my way of reading I decided to stop and think about what I was learning.

I had the enormous privilege of listening to an online service from Limavady Baptist Church yesterday morning.  The speaker John Weir drew some lessons from the life of Ananias but he also had a very appropriate message for boys and girls - isn't that always the way, the message for children sometimes speaks volumes more than perhaps the sermon of the day?  He was talking about how boys and girls can help others.  He produced a letter from a child he had recently received as a result of a Mission in Ballymena.  Along with the letter was a £10.  John was talking about how boys and girls can help others and when I opened this book today Finding God's Path Through Your Trials by Elizabeth George I realised a similar storyline.  Elizabeth talks about how pride sometimes stops us asking for help when we are going through a difficult time.  We want everyone to see us as having it altogether.  We dress up and paste a smile on our face but underneath we are like the duck paddling for all its worth.  No-one sees us as we really are and we don't let others know what is happening in our lives.  Elizabeth went on to describe some times in Paul's life where he received help when he least expected it and he had to swallow his pride to accept it.  The people of the Philippian church wanted to show that they were remembering him in prayer but they also demonstrated their love for him in a practical financial gift.  Sometimes we don't know how to help others and we wonder if people could be offended by what we say.  I have been there recently.  Sometimes our words don't come out the way they should and we hurt people.  We want to show love for another person and it comes out with the wrong intention.  It is hard to apologise and ask forgiveness in such a time but we need to also learn to forgive ourselves.  We all make mistakes, we are all born from Adam's race and we need to admit that we get it wrong.  I quote from Elizabeth's book here:

"Like Paul, a woman dedicated to God - a woman who accepts God's will, fully trusts in him and courageously steps into her trials - is never too proud to connect to God in her trial and ask for and accept help from others as she yields to her testing.

Please don't fall prey to pride.  Look to God for His purpose, His approval, His understanding, His companionship and His "well done" as you faithfully wade into the river.  Don't worry what others think or might think.  Set your eyes on the Lord, Lean on Him.  Accept help.  Learn what He wants you to know."